Welcome to my website. I set this up as a convenient place to store ideas and papers that I had written over the last few years. I hope you find something of interest and value here.
If you have logged onto this website in a state of stress or distress you may like to look immediately at the article on the right of your screen “A Five Minute Stress Reduction Note. And – excuse the dramatic note if it doesn’t apply to you – the Samaritans are on 116 123 or email@example.com
Back to a less dramatic tone…
For over 30 years I have been a solicitor, initially with a more general practice, but for a long time specialising in childcare work – which with tragic irony actually means legal work around child abuse and neglect.
I have written a certain amount about that, run some workshops and contributed to various government enquiries. That material is tucked away at the very end of this website.
About 15 years ago I also trained as a psychotherapist and I started to bring some therapeutic aspects into my work with legal clients as explained in Article in Family Law September 2010 I have also offered those to people through working one-to-one with clients, many of whom are lawyers.
My friend Steve Biddulph has recently published a new book called “Fully Human“ which contains some really interesting and valuable ideas.
He has kindly given a bit of a plug to some of my ideas and it is possible that someone looking at this website might have come here because of that reference.
He says “One of his most intriguing ideas is that trauma does more than just cause massive anxiety it also may act as a break in our development. Trauma can freeze us at the age when it took place, at least on some dimensions of maturation which requires trust, learning and physiological calm to proceed well. As a consequence we see many adults today who are emotionally frozen in an infantile stage of development, for example, or an adolescent one. If this is very widespread, then the whole society can be skewed towards certain kinds of immaturity.… we have a somewhat adolescent culture today.“
This is a partial summary of some ideas which are contained in one of the articles on this website – “Our culture of permanent adolescence – anger, stress and other addictions.“ Please click on it on the right-hand column.
Having benefited hugely from attending a parenting course many years ago, I went on to train and delivered such courses at various schools and organisations. The notes that I used and offered to participants are at Some ideas about parenting
The most recent development has been running workshops. These were initially within my own firm and subsequently for other firms and barristers’ chambers and national organisations like the Association of Lawyers for Children and the Family Law Bar Association (FLBA).
These offerings were initially along the lines of a somewhat simplistic “stress management model“. Please see the various articles here on stress busting or “How to be a Happier, Healthier, more Efficient and Ever Youthful Workaholic!” Stress and looking after ourselves – a 15 minute read
Most recently the workshop for the FLBA was recorded and is the first article on the website My first webinar 6 May.
As it says at the beginning, this is my first webinar and is really amateur, with rather unhelpful interruptions by various people and some really retro visual aids – paper and felt tip! (The next one had PowerPoint which can be a mixed blessing and happily wasn’t recorded.)
Finally I have written some articles for the FLBA Journal including for the Christmas Issue examining the emotional side of the law and asking “Why are we family lawyers anyway?” (Answer in brief – we are fascinated by family dysfunctionality in other people and we hope to bring order to it because of our own formative experiences in childhood; experiences that we are in denial about and that is why the article will make such uncomfortable and unacceptable reading for many people.)
I would welcome feedback to me at firstname.lastname@example.org